Emotional abusers train their victims to develop a toxic shame, a consciousness of their inferiority and instability because they are cowards who are not able to be in healthy relationships with positive, self-respecting personalities. Often, the abusers choose as a victim particularly successful people with an idealistic view of the world – precisely because such a person has a lot to lose.

Sociopath love perfectionists because they seek to match the naturally impossible standards that the psychopath asks. As a result, there is a strange dynamics: the abuser is idealized, although he is lazy, dishonest compulsive liar, and the victim is belittled, although she invests much more in the relationship.

You will be happy while sociopath treats with indifference. Like a frog in a slowly warmed pot of water, you’ll suspect something is wrong when it’s too late. Friends and relatives do not understand what happened to you-you were so mighty and energetic. You will feverishly come up with excuses for the behavior of a partner. Your stories will sound implausible because you will not be able to explain what happened with perfect relations.
You end up avoiding or separating yourself from people who know you both.

And the most fun end of the story, the psychopath begins to humiliate you in the presence of his friends. Previously, this happened only behind closed doors. But even now all this humiliation takes place under the guise of a joke. You are hurt because other people will side with your partner and laugh, although you feel uncomfortable. A psychopath does not care that the game has gone too far: he will note any of your objections on the pretext that you are “too sensitive.” You begin to play along, portraying a jester, a fool, a dumb partner, whose only purpose is to entertain you.

Being in a relationship with a psychopath, you will most likely experience a range of feelings unknown to you earlier: burning jealousy, an extreme need for another person (“intrusiveness”), fury, anxiety and a sense that you are being stalked.

Idealization amuses sociopath, definitely until you get hooked. It’s worth it; Your strengths become the weaknesses that the psychopath uses against you. He begins to inject into your relationship the maximum tragedy, putting you in an impossible position and condemning for your reaction.

You have to remember: a person who loves you will never put you in a similar situation.